A Catholic Response to Bullying
He who heeds discipline
shows the way to life, but
whoever ignores correction
leads others astray.
An outreach of the Catholic Education Center, Archdiocese of St. Louis.
VBRD HAS TWO KEY OUTCOMES
• Decrease anti-social behaviors
→ Problematic disruptions
• Increase faith practices
→ Education on virtue
→ Integration of faith in discipline at home and at school
• Commit to Constructive Language
→ Eliminate judging, criticizing, labeling, gossip, rumors, diminishing statements
• Become a Student of Virtue
→ Learn them, live them, pick three per year
• Engage in Restorative Practices
→ Circles at every level: parents, staff, students; address harm with dignity, hope
Education is the Best Defense
• Teaching the truth of human dignity
• Promote “Emotional Safety”
• Mentoring one-on-one to build capacity
• Intentionalize Asset Building
• Teach and model Forgiveness
It Starts With You
• What virtue am I operating from?
• Could others see the virtue in me?
• Have I genuinely complimented someone today?
• Did the compliment mention a virtue?
• How can I do better tomorrow?
Guiding Restorative Questions
• What made you say/do this?
• Who was affected by your words/actions?
• What do we need to do to make it right
• How can I help you to make a better choice in the future?
• Can we think of a virtue that might be helpful to develop?
See also: Crisis Magazine, December 10, 2013, “The Role of the Virtues in Character Education” by Sam Vanderplas.